{"id":91636,"date":"2016-04-03T22:40:38","date_gmt":"2016-04-04T02:40:38","guid":{"rendered":"\/news\/?p=91636"},"modified":"2016-04-05T12:25:24","modified_gmt":"2016-04-05T16:25:24","slug":"miscarried-at-14-weeks-baby-phoenix-shares-the-humanity-of-preborn-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/miscarried-at-14-weeks-baby-phoenix-shares-the-humanity-of-preborn-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Miscarried at 14 weeks, baby Phoenix shares the humanity of preborn children"},"content":{"rendered":"
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On July 30,\u00a02015, when my daughter was around five\u00a0months old, I discovered I was pregnant. This came as a huge shock to us both, as I have PCOS and it took seven-and-a-half years of trying, and many procedures and fertility medications and heartache, to conceive our daughter. We had a miracle baby on the way:\u00a0our third child.
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I had a scan around six\u00a0weeks (as I have a history of recurrent miscarriage) on 21st August,<\/span><\/span> which showed a heartbeat.<\/p>\n

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\nEventually my first midwife appointment came.\u00a0I had told her something didn’t feel right, but it was just brushed off.<\/p>\n

I carried on as normal, then I hit 11 weeks gestation and started bleeding on September\u00a016th<\/span><\/span>. I was offered a scan a few days later, which showed my baby alive and seemingly well with no visible sign of where the bleed was coming from.<\/p>\n

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\nThen the bleeding got worse, so I was scanned again on the\u00a023rd of September and, again, all looked alright.<\/p>\n

Then on October\u00a09th, 2015, the bleeding became heavier and was now passing on to a pad.\u00a0I was offered another scan and all seemed fine once more, and my baby had been developing as he should have been the\u00a0entire time.<\/p>\n

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On the 10th of October,<\/span><\/span> I felt him moving away inside of me; then around 4:40 a.m.<\/span><\/span> on the morning of the\u00a011th of October,<\/span><\/span> I awoke with pains. I originally thought I needed the toilet (I suffer IBS), but nothing came. I kept trying, and then I vomited, which is very unlike me. At\u00a0around\u00a06 a.m., I got on the phone, as I suspected a water infection, which I am prone to.<\/p>\n

They said a doctor would call me back, but to inform them of any changes as I waited. After I finished this phone call, my water broke, and it kept coming and coming\u00a0(at this point I didn’t realize it was my waters).\u00a0I dialed\u00a0back emergency quickly,\u00a0which called an ambulance for me. They arrived, but just as they came through the door, I had another gush of waters which went through to my pajama bottoms. They came in and checked my blood pressure and asked a few questions;\u00a0then they said they need to take me in, so I went to the bathroom to change my pants and trousers.<\/p>\n

When\u00a0I sat on the toilet, I felt pressure\u00a0and\u00a0I put my hand there, and I caught something and then felt a snap\u00a0(it was the placenta coming away from the umbilical cord, which is how I caught it). My baby son followed seconds later, born into my hand.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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After this, I made my way into the dining room where the paramedics had made their way after hearing my cries, and they could see what had happened as I held my son. They then told me I no longer had to go to hospital if I did not wish\u00a0to.\u00a0 I then asked them if they could test my baby and his placenta, to which they replied “No, it’s just one of them things.”<\/p>\n

The next day being Monday,<\/span><\/span> I phoned the\u00a0funeral directors to arrange Phoenix’s cremation after calling the Women’s Center at Newark Hospital. I asked to speak to my own midwife, but she was on holiday so I spoke to another and explained what happened. I requested a post mortem and\/or placental testing, and she told me\u00a0no\u2014that it cannot be done.<\/p>\n

I then called King’s Mill Hospital and asked the same, and was again refused. I knew full well that this was possible, as it can be done on babies even at\u00a0six\u00a0weeks gestation, so I put the placenta in the freezer in the hope of fighting later after I had grieved. Little did I know this may be a problem.<\/p>\n

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\u00a0A week or so later, I got to talk to my midwife. I asked her for placental testing and she actually told me it was not possible\u2014 not even in full term babies! I was told what I had already heard before: “It’s just one of them things,” despite crying down the phone, begging her because I knew it could be done.<\/div>\n
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Shortly after, I saw my own GP, \u00a0who I explained things to and again asked for placental testing.\u00a0He was absolutely shocked and gobsmacked at what I had been told by the midwives and assured me it can be done. He informed me it\u00a0should have been done, given how far along I was,\u00a0 and he put in a referral for me to see a specialist. He also asked me the names of the midwives who had refused me.<\/p>\n

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While I was carrying Phoenix, I was offered nothing more but scans. I wasn’t offered any vaginal or internal exams, no urine checks, no swabs, and no blood pressure checks.\u00a0 I have been seriously let down and these basic checks should have been carried out. Had they have been, maybe a problem could have been found and treated, and my son may still be here.<\/p>\n

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Here is my son, Phoenix Aesir Mann. Born at 14 weeks and one\u00a0day on the 11th of October, 2015. My precious sleeping beauty. Look how perfect he is; 10 fingers, 10 toes with nails, a perfect little nose, feet and hands and a beautiful smile. You can see all his veins, too. He was PERFECT. I miss him every day.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

On July 30,\u00a02015, when my daughter was around five\u00a0months old, I discovered I was pregnant. This came as a huge shock to us both, as I have PCOS and it took seven-and-a-half years of trying, and many procedures and fertility medications and heartache, to conceive our daughter. We had a miracle baby on the way:\u00a0our […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":163,"featured_media":91646,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false},"categories":[7077],"tags":[8204,5843,721,8205,1767,8203,220,906,298],"yoast_head":"\nMiscarried at 14 weeks, baby Phoenix shares the humanity of preborn children<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Baby Phoenix Aesir Mann was miscarried, born at 14 weeks and one day on the 11th of October, 2015. 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