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A while back, a friend shared a story with me. I heard about her pregnancy, including a night that was interrupted by blood, a race to the hospital, and the fear she\u2019d never hold her baby. It ended with \u201cthe most profound experience\u201d she\u2019s ever had: seeing her son alive on an ultrasound.<\/p>\n

She later explained,<\/p>\n

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I would tell my husband I didn\u2019t understand how anyone could support abortion. I didn\u2019t know how anyone \u00a0\u2013 especially another mother \u2013 could look at me and say that my baby wasn\u2019t alive and didn\u2019t have a right to stay that way.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Recently, she was prompted to share something else.<\/p>\n

Before becoming the founder and president of New Wave Feminists<\/a>, Destiny Herndon-DeLaRosa became a mom at 16. She covered that in an article<\/a> last month, and according to my friend, \u201cIt really struck me deep down.\u201d Specifically, she appreciated how Destiny acknowledged that fear is a common emotion.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe abortion industry thrives on fear,\u201d she told me, and\u00a0\u201cthey couldn\u2019t stay in business without it. And when you\u2019re dealing with a surprise pregnancy, fear comes pretty easily.\u201d Further, it’s not just teens who feel it:<\/p>\n

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\u00a0Abortion never occurred to me, but when I found out I was pregnant, I wasn\u2019t full of joy and excitement–I was panicked. I was in the middle of a job change, having health issues, and my marriage was struggling. I thought a child would only be in the picture once things were stable and settled.<\/p>\n

I thought wrong.<\/p>\n

My husband was elated, but it wasn\u2019t his<\/i> body, health, or career that was on the line. I loved every kick and movement, but I was afraid of being a mom and facing the future. Moreover, I was afraid to say it. After all, I was married and had a job, so I shouldn\u2019t have felt apprehensive. Well, I did.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Looking back, she realizes that even among married women and those in long term relationships, apprehension isn’t uncommon; neither is the fear of admitting it. All too often, the results are tragic.<\/p>\n

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The truth is, it\u2019s not just adolescents or single women who choose abortion when things seem overwhelming; so do women you wouldn\u2019t expect. I think sometimes it\u2019s because they feel alone in their doubts, or they assume others wouldn’t understand them. We should let them know that\u2019s not the case.<\/p>\n

We should let them know it\u2019s okay to admit when you\u2019re scared. That being apprehensive about motherhood doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you\u2019ll be bad at it. Or that if you\u2019re not ready to raise your baby, then there\u2019s no shame in finding someone<\/a> who is. And that even if yours doesn\u2019t fit the common image of a \u201ccrisis pregnancy,\u201d we still want to help.<\/p>\n

If you know someone who\u2019s pregnant and seems apprehensive, tell her about some of the resources that pro-lifers have made available. She can visit the website OptionLine<\/a> to locate a pregnancy care center<\/a> in her area or just text \u201cHELPLINE\u201d to 313131. She can go there to talk about her options or just to talk. Whether she\u2019s single, married, or in a long term relationship, she deserves to know where help is at.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Being a mom isn’t always easy, but when this mom first saw her son, her anxiety gave way to joy. However, she knows that for many women, a choice made out of fear is followed by grief. It’s something she hopes we can change.<\/p>\n

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My son is a toddler now–as ornery as he can be. He\u2019s the love of my life, though, and he has the right to his own; he always did. Every child does, and that\u2019s a message all of us need to hear.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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