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Blair Brewer grew up in a conservative Christian household, so she was adamant about saving sex until marriage \u2014 but then, she turned 18 and had her first sexual encounter. She and her boyfriend became sexually active in high school, and it didn’t take long before she became pregnant.<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer told Live Action News, \u201cIt was one weekend in November that I was visiting my boyfriend at his college that I decided to take a pregnancy test. I didn\u2019t have any symptoms, I was just a bit paranoid. When it came back positive, I felt as if my life was over.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Yet her boyfriend was calm, even seemed happy when he learned of the pregnancy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cHe tried to console me,\u201d Brewer said. \u201cBut all I could think of was having to tell my mother. I was doing everything against what I had been taught.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The “Quick Fix” That Wasn’t<\/h2>\n

The next day, while driving back to school, Brewer called a friend and asked for the number for Planned Parenthood. She needed a \u201cquick fix\u201d so she could move on and never think about this time in her life again.<\/span><\/p>\n

But she had to come up with $500 to pay for the abortion.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI borrowed the money from friends,” Brewer said. “My boyfriend, while not supportive of my decision to end the pregnancy, didn\u2019t try to stop me. I was the bold one, always taking charge.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Her friend accompanied her to Planned Parenthood on the day she was scheduled for the abortion. There, she was asked if she wanted to be sedated, but she refused \u2013 she needed to be at Bible study that night or her mother would become suspicious.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t want anything to keep me from going to class that night,\u201d Brewer said.<\/span><\/p>\n

As she lay on the cold table in the procedure room, she could hear a radio playing in the background. A nurse was beside her and told her to squeeze her hand if she needed. She was startled by a loud sound.<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer said, \u201cThe vacuum was turned on and I experienced the worst physical pain I\u2019ve ever had. I remember it lasting about two songs on the radio. I couldn\u2019t wait to get out of there.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She never went back for a follow-up visit.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI had a complete breakdown when I returned to my apartment that day,\u201d Brewer said. \u201cI was passing clots in the bathroom. I just sat on the floor and sobbed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Devastated by what she had done, she reached into the toilet and scooped up the largest clot and held it tenderly in her hands as if she was cradling her baby. Then, she got ready for Bible study.<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer said, \u201cAll I could think of was what I had done. When I got back to my apartment later that evening, I was an emotional mess.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

A Second Pregnancy Ends in Miscarriage<\/b><\/h2>\n

Four months after her abortion, she graduated college and got engaged to her boyfriend. Not long after, she became pregnant again. She contemplated making another appointment at Planned Parenthood but was averse to ever going there again.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMy parents were on vacation, and I called to tell them I was pregnant,\u201d Brewer said. \u201cTo my surprise, they were supportive. My stepfather offered to raise our baby if necessary. I was heartbroken to think they may have helped the first time as well.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The couple set their wedding date in August. Brewer felt more confident with her second pregnancy, knowing she would soon be married. But just a week before the wedding, she suffered a miscarriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer said, \u201cI was taking a shower and unexpectedly saw blood everywhere. I called my mom who took me to the hospital. I had to have a D&C just before my wedding.\u201d<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Strangely, she felt a mixture of sadness and relief at the loss of another baby.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI had to stay local for my honeymoon and couldn\u2019t even go into the hot tub with my husband,\u201d Brewer said. \u201cI later learned that miscarriages can be linked to abortions.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Divulging a 16-year secret<\/b><\/h2>\n

Three years ago, Brewer\u2019s past caught up with her. She was listening to the news one day and heard that Roe v. Wade<\/em> had been overturned by the Supreme Court.\u00a0<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer said, \u201cI was immediately triggered and felt like I was having another meltdown. I talked to my pastor who told me to connect with a woman who was our state rep and was campaigning for local office. She asked me to tell my testimony to a group of women.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She agreed to \u201cgo public\u201d with her story but first had to tell her mother about the secret she\u2019d harbored for 16 years. She called her mother to arrange an in-person meeting but, sensing the tension in Brewer\u2019s voice, her mother didn\u2019t want to wait to hear what Brewer was about to tell her.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cSo, I told my mother about the abortion, but at first, she got confused, thinking I was referring to my miscarriage,\u201d Brewer said. \u201cI told her I was too scared initially to tell her but now that I was asked to speak, I wanted her to know.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer\u2019s mother accepted the news better than she anticipated, finally relieving her of the burden she had carried for so long. Today, Brewer\u2019s mother fully supports her mission to save other women from the trauma of abortion.<\/span><\/p>\n

But she still had work to do in her marriage. While in couples therapy, Brewer began to realize she had never discussed the abortion with her husband (the father of the baby) and had no idea how he felt about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Brewer said, \u201cWhen I confronted him, he broke down and cried. It was then I realized how hurt he had been. I was very selfish and irrational.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

For Brewer, the journey to openly discussing her abortion has been a difficult one \u2014 but over time, it has become easier.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I first started speaking, I couldn\u2019t even say the word \u2018abortion.’ I would refer to it as the \u2018A\u2019 word,” Brewer said. “But as I told my story more often, I began to face what I had done and have finally come to forgive myself. I want to share my story \u2013 so women know there\u2019s always better options than abortion.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Follow Live Action News on <\/i><\/b>Facebook<\/i><\/b><\/a> and <\/i><\/b>Instagram<\/i><\/b><\/a> for more pro-life news.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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