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When Amber Casey discovered she was pregnant, the 25-year-old was deeply conflicted. She didn\u2019t want to have an abortion, yet she didn\u2019t want a child with the man with whom she was having a casual fling. She wasn\u2019t in love with him \u2013 they had just been dating for a short time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Casey told Live Action News, \u201cI only had known him for a couple of months. We met at work and started hanging out. When I told him I was pregnant, he said we\u2019d work it out but soon changed his tune. I knew he was married but he told me his marriage was over.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Still, Casey felt her boyfriend was connected to his wife despite telling her he was living separately and in the process of a divorce. While he told Casey it was \u201cher body\u201d and ultimately, her decision whether to have an abortion, she thought it best to \u201ccancel\u201d the pregnancy.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI was so broken at this point in my life,\u201d Casey said. \u201cWhile I was raised a Christian, and occasionally attended church services, I didn\u2019t really have a relationship with God. I was struggling to find my purpose.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Though Casey didn\u2019t tell her parents about her pregnancy, they strongly disapproved of her relationship with her boyfriend. As such, Casey felt as if she was living in a toxic environment. <\/span>\u201cMy parents could see through my boyfriend\u2019s charm,” Casey said. “They didn\u2019t hold back in conveying they thought I was with someone who wasn\u2019t right for me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

At a crossroads, Casey felt as if she had nobody in her corner to provide wise counsel.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMy best friend at the time had been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant,\u201d Casey said. \u201cSo, when I broached the subject of abortion, it drove a wedge between us and shut down any productive conversation we could have.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Boyfriend and pastor conspired to coerce her to abort<\/strong><\/p>\n

A Christian friend of Casey\u2019s boyfriend told him all children were a gift from God. But he had something different in mind when he arranged a dinner with his pastor and invited Casey to come along.<\/span><\/p>\n

Casey said, \u201cFirst, this pastor made fun of my Baptist upbringing, then he told me that Jesus would forgive me if I had the abortion. He further stated that there were more cons than pros to going through with the pregnancy. I knew then that my boyfriend had conspired with him to convince me to terminate my pregnancy, despite his assertion that it was my decision.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The pastor also told Casey she must get baptized to become fully in Christ and to be forgiven for her abortion. As the pressure mounted, Casey didn\u2019t see a way out, yet was still grappling with the decision to abort her child.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI visited a pregnancy support center to get more information about abortion and the counselors there prayed with me,\u201d Casey said. \u201cThey talked me through it so I left thinking I wouldn\u2019t have the abortion. My boyfriend disapproved of my decision to go there, knowing I\u2019d be even more conflicted.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Resigned, Casey made an appointment at an abortion clinic, caving to the pressure her boyfriend exerted.\u00a0<\/span>\u201cI didn\u2019t have the willpower not to go through with it. The decision was heavily influenced by my boyfriend,” Casey said. “Still, I was sick to my stomach knowing I would be complicit in ending my pregnancy.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She wondered how she could call herself a Christian, yet kill her child. She knew she should have listened to her parents and steered clear of this man. Now, she had a strained relationship with them and with her best friend.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBecause of the tension at home, I moved in briefly with my best friend who asked me to move out after a few weeks,\u201d Casey said. \u201cThen I stayed with my boyfriend and realized we had nothing in common but sex.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She was ‘distraught’ after her experience with the abortion pill<\/b><\/p>\n

Now, here she was at the largest abortion clinic in Charlotte, with loud music blasting from speakers to tamper any conversations between women seeking abortions and the pro-life sidewalk counselors.<\/span><\/p>\n

Casey said, \u201cI looked at the sidewalk counselors and felt shameful, but I also saw them as the enemy.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She saw so many young girls waiting hours for surgical abortions, while she was there to get the abortion pill, thinking it would be a much easier way to end her pregnancy. Yet she had no idea what awaited her.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThey told me it would be like a heavier period,\u201d Casey said. \u201cThey watch you take the first pill in the exam room, then send you home with the second pill. When I was given a prescription for the pain, I knew this wasn\u2019t good.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n