{"id":314737,"date":"2024-06-30T13:35:03","date_gmt":"2024-06-30T18:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=314737"},"modified":"2024-07-08T11:17:14","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T16:17:14","slug":"couple-donor-sperm-infuriated-biological-father-son","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/couple-donor-sperm-infuriated-biological-father-son\/","title":{"rendered":"Couple plans to deny son the ‘complicated’ truth about sperm donor’s identity"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A lesbian couple who used donor sperm to conceive their child said the experience ruined their friendship with the biological father, simply because the man asked to be able to see his son.<\/p>\n

In an op-ed for Yahoo! Life<\/a>, the couple (who used the pseudonyms Alice and Charlotte) said they both wanted a big family. They began by searching Facebook groups for a donor, and connected with one who assured them he wasn’t interested in contacting the child. The potential donor was married and had children, and said his wife was supportive of him donating sperm for same-sex couples to use. They bought a home insemination kit, he gave them his sperm, but they didn’t achieve pregnancy. They said they were more confused when he blocked them on Facebook unexpectedly. It was then that a friend, for whom they used the pseudonym Daniel, stepped in.<\/p>\n

“[W]hilst he was over we told him how upset we were,” they wrote. “It was then he offered to become our next sperm donor.” He assured them he wouldn’t want to be part of his son’s life after donating sperm. They pursued home insemination again.<\/p>\n

“The next day Daniel popped over, we did a test and when it came up positive Charlotte and I hugged each other with excitement,” they wrote. “‘Congratulations, I\u2019m so happy for you,’ Daniel smiled, looking a bit surprised that it had actually worked.”<\/p>\n

But they warned that problems were arising, as Daniel kept texting to ask if the baby had arrived yet.<\/p>\n

In February of 2023, Charlotte gave birth to a healthy boy. “We both fell instantly in love with our gorgeous little boy and once Charlotte was out of theatre we messaged Daniel too. ‘He\u2019s healthy and he\u2019s fine,’ I wrote. A couple of days later when we were back home, Daniel replied, asking, ‘Can I come and meet the baby?'” they recalled. “We were annoyed because we had made it clear from the start we didn\u2019t want our donor to be involved in the baby\u2019s life. We hadn\u2019t thought that he would want to meet him. ‘No,’ I replied firmly. ‘We agreed you\u2019re just a donor, not the baby\u2019s dad.’ But he didn\u2019t leave it at that and in the days and weeks that followed, more and more messages flooded in. He only lived about five minutes away and we both got so anxious about all the messages and the fear of bumping into him when we were out, that we hardly left the house.”<\/p>\n

All of this anxiety \u2014 to the point that they were afraid to leave the house \u2014 was born of nothing more than Daniel wanting to meet his biological infant son.<\/p>\n

After several months, they allowed him to meet his son, hoping it would bring an end to the issue… and it did.<\/p>\n