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When Annie Tang Humphrey was just 12 years old, she and her mother emigrated to the United States from Taiwan to stay with an aunt and uncle residing in San Diego. While her mother worked two jobs, Humphrey struggled to learn English and grasp the culture of her new country with the help of her uncle. But the young girl became increasingly uncomfortable in his presence when his tutoring turned physical.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey told Live Action News, \u201cMy uncle got \u2018touchy-feely\u2019 after a while and at first, I didn\u2019t think he was doing anything wrong. I didn\u2019t have a father figure in my life, so I initially wondered if this was the way a man showed fatherly love. In the Asian culture, you don\u2019t talk about sexuality, and you don\u2019t upset the apple cart, so I didn\u2019t say anything.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

But Humphrey started wearing long sleeves and covering up to deter his advances. Unable to keep quiet any longer, she told her mother what was occurring.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMy mother was concerned but terrified we\u2019d be kicked out if we made a fuss,\u201d Humphrey said. \u201cShe told me to protect myself until we could afford to get our own place. We eventually moved out, but the experience shaped me into someone who had to be in control in relationships with men.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

A vow to be in control at all times results in a devastating choice<\/b><\/p>\n

Determined never again to be vulnerable to the whims of any man, Humphrey went on to college where she excelled academically and had a large circle of friends. Eventually, she met a young man with whom she began an intimate relationship, resulting in an unplanned pregnancy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey told Live Action News, \u201cThe need to be in control kicked in and I thought, I must take care of this problem. I belonged to the Asian-American Christian Fellowship at the time and I was horrified at someone finding out what I had done. I knew how gossipy and judgmental they could be. I wouldn\u2019t let that happen to me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

With nowhere to turn, a desperate Humphrey shared her predicament with a pro-choice friend who encouraged her to get an abortion. She offered to drop Humphrey off at the Riverside Planned Parenthood where she could quietly terminate her pregnancy, and nobody would ever know.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I arrived there, I felt as if everything was in slow motion,\u201d Humphrey said. \u201cI clearly remember the smell, even the temperature inside the room. As I used my credit card to pay for the procedure, I thought, I\u2019m just \u2018swiping\u2019 away my problem.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She waited, rubbing the goosebumps on her arms sitting stiffly among the other women, all of them staring downward, careful to avoid eye contact with those who shared their sorrow and shame. When her time came, she recalls being put to sleep.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey said, \u201cWhen I woke up afterward, I immediately felt a change in my soul. I felt as if I had gained 20 pounds of weight internally; my spirit felt heavy.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Meeting her friend in the back alley of the building, she likened herself to a criminal attempting to scurry away covertly, knowing she had done something egregious.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI just didn\u2019t think about making a pro-life choice,\u201d Humphrey said. \u201cI didn\u2019t take time to pause; my impulsive decision was based on my past experiences and subsequent fears about not being in control. I needed to make sure what I had done was hidden forever.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Twenty-five years later, Humphrey learned about pregnancy support centers and the network of resources available to women and their babies by watching a Save the Storks video on social media. For Humphrey, painful memories of her abortion resurfaced as she realized her lack of awareness about the life-affirming options open to her coupled with her need to be a \u201ctake-charge\u201d woman had resulted in making a devastating choice.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey said, \u201cI had always supported the pro-choice narrative even though I was a Christian because I had to justify what I had done. But now, I had to face the consequences of a life lived deeply rooted in guilt and shame.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Later, Humphrey worked for a large jewelry store chain in Southern California, a career she loved and for which she was well compensated. But, she realized she didn\u2019t want her daughter to travel the same path as she had and that meant taking a stand for life. She knew it was time to come clean about her painful past.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI felt compelled to write a heartfelt letter to a former co-worker, Diane Ferraro, who was now working for Save the Storks,\u201d Humphrey said. I poured out all the details about the abortion. I told her if she found the letter disgusting, I would understand. But she wrote back and told me she loved me even more.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

It was then, Humphrey understood, that those who truly embody the spirit of Christ shine the light on the salvation and forgiveness that Jesus offers and for which Humphrey yearned.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey said, \u201cMy experience with Christianity was limited to my college years. There, I met many Christians who were misguided. We as Christians must learn to love those who are post-abortive and lead them to redemption. It\u2019s only through Jesus can we be made whole.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Taking a stand for life<\/b><\/p>\n

Ferraro suggested that Humphrey consider working for Save the Storks, an idea she fully embraced. Humphrey never imagined she\u2019d leave a job she\u2019d held for 22 years to take a position with a nonprofit organization for less pay, but she did.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMy daughter was the driving force behind my mid-life career switch,\u201d Humphrey said. \u201cI wanted to be a role model for her and to help her understand the importance of being pro-life in a world that often tries to sabotage what God wants for us.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The destruction caused by abortion can\u2019t be sugar-coated, Humphrey points out. But often, people don\u2019t know right from wrong, especially when church leaders shy away from the abortion discussion or are disgracing those who\u2019ve had abortions.<\/span><\/p>\n

When Humphrey shared her testimony, she not only allowed herself to be vulnerable, but it prompted a woman to reveal her abortion 50 years earlier, a secret she had kept hidden for so long out of fear of being judged harshly.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humphrey said, \u201cChurch leaders think that by talking about abortion, they\u2019re wading into forbidden political waters. But the church needs to be a safe place for women like me. We need to take a stand for Biblical truths and provide post-abortive women with opportunities to share their testimonies. When we create a culture of love and acceptance, we can help other women make better choices and encourage those who are hurting to come out of the shadows.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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