{"id":279633,"date":"2022-11-13T09:40:53","date_gmt":"2022-11-13T15:40:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=279633"},"modified":"2022-11-10T23:46:36","modified_gmt":"2022-11-11T05:46:36","slug":"cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/","title":{"rendered":"Can&#8217;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abortion is often framed as strictly a women\u2019s issue, and men are often siloed off, disallowed a voice in the decision-making process. In Care Net\u2019s 2021 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.care-net.org\/mens-survey\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">survey<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of American men whose partners had abortions, 67% of men said abortion is a woman\u2019s choice, and 40% said they think society says men should handle an unplanned pregnancy by neither encouraging nor discouraging their partners\u2019 decisions in any way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yet men can suffer abortion regret in similar ways to women, as is demonstrated by some of the testimonies submitted by post-abortive men to Live Action\u2019s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cantstaysilent.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can\u2019t Stay Silent<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> website. Men can suffer whether they initially supported the decision to abort or opposed it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>URGENT:\u00a0<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/give.liveaction.org\/future-of-abortion\/?utm_source=lan&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=minibomb\"><b><i>For every dollar given, 34 more people can be reached with the truth about abortion. Will you join us in this life-saving work as a monthly donor today?<\/i><\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kevin, for example, never wanted to abort his child. \u201cI was first married at age 23, my wife was 21 and we agreed we wanted children \u2018someday,\u2019\u201d he said. \u201cI\u2019ve always been pro-life and she was a pro-choice feminist. I knew we were \u2018unequally yoked,\u2019 but we were young and in love.\u201d He continued:<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After 6 years, she became pregnant and I was overjoyed. She, however, wanted to wait longer to get further in her career. We couldn\u2019t agree on what to do. Then a short time later while I was dropping her off at work, she started complaining about abdominal pain but [she] went to her office anyhow. That evening when [we] were home she told me that she had miscarried and went with a girlfriend to a local clinic. I was heartbroken. A few weeks later a friend told me his wife confided that [my wife] actually had an abortion. I couldn\u2019t believe she would do that or it could even be done legally without a husband\u2019s agreement.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">His wife\u2019s secret decision had severe repercussions: \u201cWe tried to work things out and move past it but eventually got divorced,\u201d Kevin said. \u201cI went through years of deep depression, lost my home and job.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Steven, on the other hand, initially supported the decision to abort: \u201cIt\u2019s been over 20 years since we left the clinic where we got an abortion in Shreveport, LA. I think we were both a bit oblivious to what it entailed, but we were fine with it because we already had a baby and didn\u2019t want another one,\u201d he said. \u201cWe were 19 yrs old and on Medicaid and WIC, so we thought having another baby was impossible. We really didn\u2019t see another way.\u201d He continued:<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My wife doesn\u2019t really like to talk about it, so we really don\u2019t. It weighs [on] my mind heavily these days, knowing what we did. I didn\u2019t deal with any of the physical drama, yet it breaks my heart we took away a life; our own flesh and blood. I can\u2019t undo it, and I know that ultimately it was up to her to decide; however, I believe in my heart I [could] have convinced her otherwise. She needed to feel hope, and I [did]n\u2019t give that to her. I felt just as hopeless. \u2026 I feel like this has become a permanent stain on our relationship and our lives.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spencer, similarly, was an active participant in the abortion decision. \u201cI paid to abort my child,\u201d he stated. \u201cI have lived with that regret for nearly 40 years. A day does not pass [that] I don\u2019t think about my child! That one selfish act cost me more than I can fully express.\u201d Summing up the feelings of countless post-abortive fathers, Spencer concluded: \u201cAbortion affects men too!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pledge.liveaction.org\/?utm_source=lan&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=prolife_pledge\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-277267\" src=\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/pledge-live-action-ad-970x250-700x180.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"700\" height=\"180\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Abortion is often framed as strictly a women\u2019s issue, and men are often siloed off, disallowed a voice in the decision-making process. In Care Net\u2019s 2021 survey of American men whose partners had abortions, 67% of men said abortion is a woman\u2019s choice, and 40% said they think society says men should handle an unplanned [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":788,"featured_media":192422,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false},"categories":[9455,3473],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Can&#039;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Can&#039;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Live Action News\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/liveaction\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/sad-man-abortion-regret.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1200\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"650\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Bettina di Fiore\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@liveaction\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@liveaction\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Bettina di Fiore\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Bettina di Fiore\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/189f8a60121ec1992ae74917a7134f0f\"},\"headline\":\"Can&#8217;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion\",\"datePublished\":\"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\"},\"wordCount\":627,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization\"},\"articleSection\":[\"Human Interest\",\"Newsbreak\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\",\"name\":\"Can't Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00\",\"description\":\"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Can&#8217;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/\",\"name\":\"Live Action News\",\"description\":\"Covering Human Rights, Abortion, &amp; Pro-Life Issues\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Live Action\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/Live-Action-Logo-Black.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/Live-Action-Logo-Black.png\",\"width\":701,\"height\":710,\"caption\":\"Live Action\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/liveaction\",\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/liveaction\",\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/liveactionorg\/\",\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/LiveActionFilms\/\",\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/LiveActionFilms\"]},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/189f8a60121ec1992ae74917a7134f0f\",\"name\":\"Bettina di Fiore\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3e31061bd16493d73f3e184e7dfec4d3?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3e31061bd16493d73f3e184e7dfec4d3?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Bettina di Fiore\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/author\/bettina-di-fiore\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Can't Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion","description":"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Can't Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion","og_description":"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.","og_url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/","og_site_name":"Live Action News","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/liveaction","article_published_time":"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00","article_modified_time":"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1200,"height":650,"url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/sad-man-abortion-regret.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Bettina di Fiore","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@liveaction","twitter_site":"@liveaction","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Bettina di Fiore","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/"},"author":{"name":"Bettina di Fiore","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/189f8a60121ec1992ae74917a7134f0f"},"headline":"Can&#8217;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion","datePublished":"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00","dateModified":"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/"},"wordCount":627,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization"},"articleSection":["Human Interest","Newsbreak"],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/","url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/","name":"Can't Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#website"},"datePublished":"2022-11-13T15:40:53+00:00","dateModified":"2022-11-11T05:46:36+00:00","description":"Men can suffer abortion regret similarly to women, as evidenced by some testimonies submitted by men to Live Action\u2019s Can\u2019t Stay Silent website.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/cant-stay-silent-men-regret-abortion\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Can&#8217;t Stay Silent: Men express profound regret for participation in abortion"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#website","url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/","name":"Live Action News","description":"Covering Human Rights, Abortion, &amp; Pro-Life Issues","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#organization","name":"Live Action","url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/Live-Action-Logo-Black.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/Live-Action-Logo-Black.png","width":701,"height":710,"caption":"Live Action"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/liveaction","https:\/\/twitter.com\/liveaction","https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/liveactionorg\/","https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/LiveActionFilms\/","https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/LiveActionFilms"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/189f8a60121ec1992ae74917a7134f0f","name":"Bettina di Fiore","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3e31061bd16493d73f3e184e7dfec4d3?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3e31061bd16493d73f3e184e7dfec4d3?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Bettina di Fiore"},"url":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/author\/bettina-di-fiore\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279633"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/788"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=279633"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279633\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":279634,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/279633\/revisions\/279634"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/192422"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=279633"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=279633"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=279633"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}