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In 1990, Carla Stream had an abortion \u2014\u00a0one her college roommate helped her obtain. The experience led their friendship to fracture. But decades later, they reunited and are now both fighting for life and to help other mothers like Stream.<\/p>\n

Stream was raised in an abusive home, and struggled with alcohol addiction at a young age. Anxious to find love, she sought solace from boys her age, which led to her becoming pregnant at 24 years old. She thought there was only one solution: abortion. That was what her sister had done, and she didn’t think she had anywhere to turn. So she asked her roommate, Jill King, for help. \u201cI didn\u2019t want an abortion. I wanted support and encouragement,\u201d Stream previously told Live Action News<\/a>. \u201cHelp and hope. I wanted to hear that I could do it. I could make it.\u201d<\/p>\n

For King, she simply wanted to help her friend. Stream was scared she would have to move out, so King began researching pregnancy options. The only information she could find was on abortion, so she offered to take time off of work and drive her there. \u201cIt was my first experience living away from home. I thought, \u2018I\u2019m a big adult girl, I can take care of my friend,\u2019\u201d King said in an interview with The Catholic Spirit<\/a>. \u201c\u2018I can help you. I can take off of work.\u2019 I told her I\u2019d taken other people before, maybe to help her feel better about it. It was a lie.\u201d<\/p>\n

Stream hoped people would be outside, pro-life counselors who might offer other options, but no one was there. Both women were shaken by the experience inside; they were both taken to a room where they were shown a cartoonish video of what the preborn baby allegedly look like, which was described as a blob of cells that resembled grapes. \u201cThey show you that to demonstrate it\u2019s OK; it\u2019s not human yet,\u201d King recalled. Stream told Live Action News she was never given the opportunity to see an ultrasound or hear her baby’s heartbeat.<\/p>\n

\u201cI had what was considered counseling,\u201d Stream told the Catholic Spirit. \u201cShe asked me, \u2018What kind of mother would you make?\u2019 She closed the sale by saying, \u2018Will that be Visa or MasterCard today?\u2019 That\u2019s what they do. They sell abortion.\u201d<\/p>\n

Afterwards, the experience was traumatic for both women.<\/p>\n

READ:\u00a0Years after an abortion, Carla held her miscarried baby and realized the truth: \u2018I saw a precious little face\u2019<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“I was brought to the recovery room and given a warm blanket and peanut butter and jelly toast. I felt relief but only because it was done. I looked at all the other girls, all crying,” Stream said. “One was holding her stomach, rocking back and forth, saying, \u2018My baby, my baby.\u2019”<\/p>\n

Because of the experience, the two women no longer knew how to behave as friends. Stream said, “I really struggled with everything. I didn\u2019t know how to be a friend to her. When the lease was up, I wanted to be away from anything that reminded me of what happened.\u201d<\/p>\n

King was overwhelmed with guilt, and she likewise found it painful to be around Stream. “We didn\u2019t really talk about it,\u201d she said. \u201cAll of a sudden, this really good friend, I didn\u2019t want to be around her anymore, and she didn\u2019t want to be around me anymore. We both knew what we did was wrong. We didn\u2019t talk to each other for a long time. I did all the self-loathing, the guilt. In that 20 years, I thought about her all the time. It is not an exaggeration to say at least once a week.\u201d<\/p>\n

But both women eventually found healing. Stream began attending post-abortion Bible studies, as well as Rachel’s Vineyard retreats. \u201cIt was for me a hugely important part of my healing from abortion,\u201d she said. \u201cI have never felt a safer place to share. You sit with people and their pain, sorrow and grief, and work through Scripture and apply God\u2019s word to what you\u2019ve been through.\u201d<\/p>\n

In 2010, King searched for Stream on Facebook, and took a chance by reaching out to her. \u201cShe shared her story,\u201d Stream said. \u201cShe said, \u2018I don\u2019t know where you\u2019re at. I just want you to know I am so sorry.\u201d King had begun working at Lakes Life Care Center, a pregnancy resource center which provides pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, parenting preparation and other services. And she found out that Stream had also become pro-life, also, helping to give other women the support that she never received.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe got together,\u201d King said. \u201cI had the opportunity to seek forgiveness for what I had done. [Stream] is a sidewalk counselor, a prayer warrior… She\u2019s OK, and (I know) she doesn\u2019t hate me. Because she could. But she doesn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n

Now, all these years later, the two women are friends again, and they even give speeches together about their experience. \u201cI cannot say enough what it means to work with her,\u201d Stream said. \u201cTo see what God has done in our lives.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cLike\u201d Live Action News on Facebook<\/a>\u00a0for more pro-life news and commentary!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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