{"id":233954,"date":"2020-11-04T09:37:19","date_gmt":"2020-11-04T15:37:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=233954"},"modified":"2020-11-04T00:44:27","modified_gmt":"2020-11-04T06:44:27","slug":"woman-bulldozed-three-abortions-boyfriend-abortion-worker","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/woman-bulldozed-three-abortions-boyfriend-abortion-worker\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman says she was ‘bulldozed’ into three abortions by boyfriend and abortion worker"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Mary was pressured into three abortions by her abusive boyfriend and an abortion \u201ccounselor.\u201d Her testimonial is recorded in the book, “Giving Sorrow Words: Women\u2019s Stories of Grief after Abortion.”<\/p>\n

The first time Mary became pregnant, she was happy and wanted to keep the baby. But when she told her boyfriend, he \u201cflew into a terrifying rage.\u201d She says she \u201cwept, begged and cajoled\u201d but he demanded that she have an abortion. She agreed to go to an abortion facility and speak to a \u201ccounselor\u201d there.<\/p>\n

She says the middle-aged counselor \u201cseemed so motherly and sympathetic at first.\u201d Mary hoped the abortion worker would help her stand up to her boyfriend:<\/p>\n

I was crying my eyes out, saying over and over that I did not want the abortion. I was desperate; I knew it was impossible for me to stand up to my boyfriend on my own, but I thought that this \u201ccounselor\u201d could support me and perhaps help him see reason.<\/em><\/p>\n

But that\u2019s not what happened. Mary says:<\/p>\n

Instead, she sided with him. I now had two people haranguing me. I was saying over and over that I wanted to have the baby, but the two of them just bulldozed over me completely. I felt cornered. I was sitting down, and they were both standing over me. I had once received training in how to close a sale, and I felt that this \u201ccounselor\u201d must\u2019ve been to the same sales training seminars.<\/em><\/p>\n

There was a momentary lull in the bulldozing, when I almost blurted out, \u201cWhat sort of commission do you get?\u201d But of course, I didn\u2019t. I just sat there and wept.<\/em><\/p>\n

READ:\u00a0Former Planned Parenthood worker: We \u2018coerced\u2019 and \u2018lied to\u2019 women so they would abort<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

The abortion worker gave Mary no options other than abortion:<\/p>\n

I was never asked how I felt, what I wanted. Nor was I offered any advice as to what resources were available to single mothers. The option of adoption was also never mentioned. I was simply told, over and over, that I could not possibly survive on my own with a baby, that sooner or later I would fall in a heap, that my boyfriend would never see me again, that my parents would never forgive me, and so it went on.<\/em><\/p>\n

Both the abortion \u201ccounselor\u201d and the abortionist lied to Mary about the development of her baby:<\/p>\n

One memory which stands out very strongly from this episode is the false information given to me by both the \u201ccounselor\u201d and a doctor who was to perform the abortion. This was, that at that stage of my pregnancy the baby was not in any way human; it was merely \u201ca collection of cells, no bigger than a match head.\u201d I have since learned, of course, that by eight weeks my baby\u2019s heart had already been beating for more than a month, and that many other organs had begun forming.<\/em><\/p>\n

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She left with an appointment for an abortion a week later. Her boyfriend made sure she went through with it.\u00a0Her boyfriend\u2019s treatment became even worse after the abortion. “He seemed to enjoy being cruel to me and would either laugh or storm out in a rage when I cried, which I did often,” she says. “He had always had affairs before, but now he didn\u2019t seem to care if I knew about them.”<\/p>\n

But Mary couldn\u2019t bring herself to leave him, because she had sacrificed her baby for him. She felt the death of her baby would be in vain if she left, saying, \u201c[T]here was no way I could let our relationship fail now \u2013 otherwise my baby\u2019s murder would\u2019ve been for nothing.\u201d<\/p>\n

She got pregnant a second time and had a second abortion at his insistence. “By now I was so conditioned to being under his control that I booked myself into the clinic and had the abortion, after seeing the same \u201ccounselor\u201d and being perfunctorily reassured that, of course, I was doing the right thing,” she says.<\/p>\n

When she became pregnant a third time, she waited until she was out of town for two months to tell him. His reaction was \u201cabsolute fury.\u201d He called her nearly every night, verbally abusing her and commanding her to have an abortion.\u00a0Mary says:<\/p>\n

I had a lot of free time while I was away, and I spend most of it resting and daydreaming about the baby. I felt certain it was a boy and I talked to him, saying how precious and loved he was\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

[H]owever, this treasured baby was aborted too, at the same clinic, amid tears and indescribable anguish. My boyfriend and the counselor shared a coffee nearby.<\/em><\/p>\n

Now, years later, and finally free of her boyfriend, Mary mourns for her aborted children. She says, \u201cThere is no way of conveying the enormity of my grief and guilt, or of saying how desperately I still yearn for them.\u201d<\/p>\n

Source: Melinda Tankard Reist Giving Sorrow Words: Women\u2019s Stories of Grief after Abortion <\/em>(Springfield, IL: Acorn Books, 2007) 131-133<\/h5>\n

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