{"id":231592,"date":"2020-09-28T10:46:35","date_gmt":"2020-09-28T15:46:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=231592"},"modified":"2020-09-27T20:36:44","modified_gmt":"2020-09-28T01:36:44","slug":"struggled-bond-wanted-abortion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/struggled-bond-wanted-abortion\/","title":{"rendered":"Teresa struggled to bond with her ‘wanted’ baby after previous abortion"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A recent guest on Support After Abortion’s abortion healing interview series<\/a> shared her personal story of having an abortion at age 19 and the emotional trauma she endured because of it.<\/p>\n

At the time of her unplanned pregnancy, Teresa was facing significant relational difficulties. In a blog post<\/a> Support after Abortion said of Teresa: “She didn\u2019t realize it at the time, but her circumstances screamed codependency\u2014she was in a relationship where she lacked the inner strength to make her own decisions and instead allowed others to make them for her. She cared so much about what others thought that she often did everything in her power not to disappoint or to do anything that might warrant abandonment.” Given this background, she accepted her boyfriend’s suggestion that she have an abortion.<\/p>\n

In the interview, Teresa recalled the “cold” atmosphere at the abortion business where “nobody talks to you.” Her feelings of being “invisible and all alone” were further compounded by the masked abortionist saying nothing to her when he entered the procedure room. The procedure was “an extremely difficult and scary experience, and everyone seemed so far removed,” she explained. “Compassion was lacking.” She sat in the recovery room afterward, surrounded by crying women but feeling “completely numb” herself. She and her boyfriend never spoke of the abortion again.<\/p>\n