{"id":221325,"date":"2020-04-04T11:42:40","date_gmt":"2020-04-04T16:42:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=221325"},"modified":"2020-04-03T17:52:05","modified_gmt":"2020-04-03T22:52:05","slug":"mom-baby-43-minutes-fear-keep","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/mom-baby-43-minutes-fear-keep\/","title":{"rendered":"Mom of baby who lived 43 minutes after birth: ‘My worst fear was not being able to keep her’"},"content":{"rendered":"
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At their routine 19-week ultrasound with baby number four, Stacy Aube and her husband Matt were devastated to learn that their baby girl was not going to live long after birth. The doctor diagnosed her with anencephaly, in which the skull doesn’t form properly. There was little hope, and the couple was offered an abortion. They refused.<\/p>\n

Aube said that she began to worry about her baby during the pregnancy, experiencing vivid dreams in which the baby died. Unsure what the dreams meant, she thought perhaps the baby had a disability. When they arrived at the ultrasound appointment, they were thrilled to know they were having a baby girl. With one girl and two boys at home, they knew their older daughter wanted a baby sister, and they couldn’t wait to tell her. But then, the technician said they would need to speak with the doctor.<\/p>\n

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Aube family. Via Facebook.<\/p><\/div>\n

“Matt was watching closely and asked, ‘Are you having trouble measuring her head?’ She didn’t look up from the screen, just replied, ‘She is just dancing all over the place so I’m having trouble getting her to sit still for it.’ I laughed and joked about how she was a little dancer who liked to dance just like me,” Aube wrote in an essay for Love What Matters<\/a>. “As the minutes went on, we started to realize this was very different than scans we had in the past. The tech was not chatting anymore and she was still trying to measure her head.”<\/p>\n

As the tech left the room, Aube turned to her husband whose head was bowed in prayer. She quickly joined him. Aube understood now what those dreams meant, and she told her husband, “This is what [God] was preparing me for.”<\/p>\n

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Aube family at Rachel’s birth. Via Facebook.<\/p><\/div>\n

A million thoughts went through their minds as they waited to meet with the doctors. Aube didn’t want her baby to die and found herself wishing for a diagnosis of Down syndrome or any condition that would allow her baby to live.<\/p>\n

“And that’s when I realized my worst fear was not disability, my worse fear was not being able to keep her,” she wrote. “I would take her in any possible condition, I just wanted her.”<\/p>\n

The doctor told the couple that their baby girl had anencephaly and that she would not live long after birth. She offered them an abortion, which they immediately rejected. They were devastated and heartbroken and the thought of losing their baby girl. After leaving, Aube asked her husband what they were going to do.<\/p>\n

“Without a pause, my brave husband said, ‘We’re going to give her a name.’ We already had one picked out, and so Rachel Alice it was,” said Aube. “Our 2nd little girl.”<\/p>\n

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I miss this little girl so much. Words cannot describe what it feels like to miss her. I would give anything to kiss her face or hear her giggle. I will someday… But not soon enough. #msmygrl #AnencephalyWasOnlyPartOfHerStory #December3 #43minutes #sheisalwayswithus<\/a><\/p>\n

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