{"id":205740,"date":"2019-07-04T12:56:40","date_gmt":"2019-07-04T17:56:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=205740"},"modified":"2019-07-03T17:49:59","modified_gmt":"2019-07-03T22:49:59","slug":"grew-foster-care-now-hes-adopted-three-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/grew-foster-care-now-hes-adopted-three-children\/","title":{"rendered":"He grew up in foster care. Now, he’s adopted three boys from the foster system."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Barry Farmer is a single dad, but he’s not a typical father. “I look in the mirror all the time, and if you would have told me 10 years ago that this would happen, I wouldn\u2019t believe you,” he told WTVR<\/a> in 2017. “I wished to be a father, but it wasn\u2019t going to be this soon.” Yet he’s a father to three boys, due largely to his own experience growing up in foster care, which steered him towards adoption.<\/p>\n

Farmer grew up in Kinship Care, a form of foster care in which a relative steps in to care for a child if their parents aren’t able to. Raised by his grandmother, Farmer said she taught him to be responsible, and he helped take care of her as she got older, too. But when he turned 21, he had an idea: he applied for a foster license to take children in, too. \u201cBecoming a foster parent was like a tribute to my grandmother because I could never pay her back, but I was definitely able to pay it forward,\u201d he told People<\/a>. And after he got his foster license, he was placed with then-eight-year-old Jaxon, with the plan originally being for him to reunite with his biological family. But after a year, Jaxon wanted to stay with Farmer.<\/p>\n

READ:\u00a0Amazing: Texas couple fosters more than 170 babies in 36 years<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

He said that Jaxon began calling him “Dad” immediately, which was especially meaningful for Farmer. \u201cIt was touching that this child of a different race felt comfortable enough to call me Dad; he was a child searching for belonging in a not so typical situation,” he said. So Farmer adopted him, making them officially each other’s forever family.<\/p>\n

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Please know, children in Kinship Care could possibly carry the same feelings of loss as an adoptee. This my first Christmas living with my Grandmother. I was still getting to know her since we didn\u2019t have a relationship prior to me moving in. Check out the MC Hammer doll lol. This was my new normal, my new beginning, stability. My Grandmother didn\u2019t have a lot to give me but it was more than what I ever had up until that point. I was fed, well groomed, my own room and loved. I may not have had what other children around me had growing up, but I did have a CHANCE. Because I realize not everyone gets a CHANCE. Anyone that tries to tell you that you don\u2019t need to be grateful for a CHANCE to heal, only want you to suffer in their misery, I refuse to do that. I choose to react to my present so that my future can be peaceful. THIS PICTURE BRINGS ME PEACE. To my fellow KinshipCare\/FosterCare\/Adoptees, I hope you find your peace. Foster Parents and Adoptive Parents I hope the children in your care find their peace.<\/a><\/p>\n

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