{"id":194340,"date":"2019-01-16T08:18:52","date_gmt":"2019-01-16T14:18:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=194340"},"modified":"2019-01-15T20:03:34","modified_gmt":"2019-01-16T02:03:34","slug":"woman-pressured-boyfriend-abortion-wish-werent-alive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/woman-pressured-boyfriend-abortion-wish-werent-alive\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman dumped by boyfriend after he told her to abort: ‘I wish I weren’t alive’"},"content":{"rendered":"
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While abortion<\/a> is said to be about protecting a woman’s “choice”, the reality is, it’s extremely common for pregnant mothers to be pressured or coerced into the procedure by the people around them. While it is possible for a woman to withstand this kind of pressure, it is extraordinarily difficult, especially if she is not aware of her legal options and resources available to help her. And afterwards the woman is often left alone, to pick up the pieces and deal with her grief, heartache, and regret. One post-abortive woman begged for advice after going through an abortion at her boyfriend’s insistence<\/a>, only to find that she felt terrible afterwards, and doesn’t want to live anymore.<\/p>\n

The unnamed woman explained in a letter to Wendy, former CNN advice columnist who now writes at DearWendy.com<\/a>, that she was 25 years old and had previously never been in a serious relationship. But when she met her ex-boyfriend, she fell in love hard. She had difficulties trusting him, though, so she downplayed her own feelings. “His best mate was a big alpha guy who cheated on his girl, and my guy was pretty similar in terms of being popular but with an untrustworthy character,” she said in her letter. “So although we carried on sleeping together and I had strong feelings for him, I said I wasn\u2019t sure. We were like this for six months. He knew I never slept with anyone else during this time, so in my head I guess I kinda thought he realized it wasn\u2019t a casual relationship.”<\/p>\n

When she found out she was pregnant, she went to tell him, and says the only thing he said to her was to “get rid of it.” Furious, the woman left saying she never wanted to talk to him again. But she quickly changed her mind, and the next day, agreed to have the abortion. He did not go with her for the procedure, and instead, her mom went to support her. “The whole thing broke my heart,” she said. Her mother told her to let the boyfriend go and she did, but quickly began to worry that she had “pushed away the only person I’d ever loved.”<\/p>\n

While she does not disclose how far along in her pregnancy she was, it seems likely that she was still in her first trimester. The most common first trimester abortion procedure is an aspiration abortion, or a dilation and curettage. In this procedure, the abortionist uses a powerful suction catheter, 10 to 20 times stronger than the average vacuum cleaner, to vacuum the preborn child from the womb. A curette is then used to scrape the mother’s uterus to remove any remaining pieces of the baby.<\/p>\n