{"id":189271,"date":"2018-10-03T09:44:50","date_gmt":"2018-10-03T14:44:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liveaction.org\/news\/?p=189271"},"modified":"2018-10-02T16:06:53","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T21:06:53","slug":"feminist-describes-abortion-skewered","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/feminist-describes-abortion-skewered\/","title":{"rendered":"Prominent feminist describes her abortion: It &#8216;felt like I was being skewered&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p>Pro-abortion activist Jessica Valenti wrote about her two abortions in her book,\u00a0<em>Sex Object<\/em>. Valenti describes finding a private abortion facility to do her first <a href=\"http:\/\/abortionprocedures.com\">abortion<\/a>. She paid over $1000 to avoid sitting in a waiting room with other women. Valenti describes how she found the abortion facility:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>A Google search on \u201cearly abortions\u201d that same day led me to a clinic claiming to be midwife\u2013like that used a method for ending the pregnancy that didn\u2019t require machines, anesthesia, or a horrible sucking sound. Just a syringe and a nurse holding your hand.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>But the abortion was extremely painful. Valenti writes:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Midwife-like handholding aside, the pain was terrible, much worse than I expected. I didn&#8217;t cry, but my sister told me I went pale, my lips white minutes afterward while I ate a pink starburst to get my blood sugar going enough to get me off the table without vomiting.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The abortion facility called Valenti a few days later to tell her the abortion had failed. She was still pregnant. Valenti was filled with dread at the thought of going back to the facility:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>When the nurse told me on the phone my knees literally went weak at the thought of enduring that pain again. So, when I went to see the doctor for the second time, I started to sob. Please can you give me something. She told me I was right and brave to ask for what I needed, and a nurse put an IV in my arm and gave me a sedative that made the procedure so easy I cried with relief and gratitude \u2013 thanking the doctor through tears as she left the room when all was done. I left the office with my sister and went outside, where my mother was waiting with her car to drive me home, me lying down in the backseat. I knew, though, that I could never go through this again.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/5THDmys8z30\" width=\"640\" height=\"355\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Valenti says that her tears were from \u201crelief and gratitude\u201d but she admits to being so traumatized that she pledged to never abort again. And yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Years later, Valenti gave birth to a daughter. She had pre-eclampsia and had to have a C-Section. When she became pregnant again later, doctors thought the pre-eclampsia might return. So Valenti went back to the abortion facility:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Like before, it is more midwife-like than a hospital \u2013 from the tea to the candies and the handholding nurse with the soft voice. But that doesn&#8217;t stop me from crying when the doctor tells me they no longer offer IV sedation, just a single Vicodin I know won&#8217;t make a dent\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>I wish I could say that it hurt less the second time around \u2013 that knowing what to expect helped. But I did not want to be there\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>My body ignored my wishes. It clenched and held on even as I assured the doctor that this was what I wanted. It fought me, trying to hold onto this pregnancy\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>[The] pain of the procedure overtook me. The speculum felt high up in me, cold and hard, and the pain emanating from my vagina into my abdomen felt like I was being skewered. The nurse at my side told me to bear down as if I was having a bowel movement and that would help relax me, and it did, but it still hurt so much. I start to see double\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>They said I had a lower pain tolerance than most \u2013 You&#8217;re so sensitive! I lay there, waiting for the warmth to come back to my face. And it did. My breath became slower; I stopped crying.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/archive.liveaction.org\/news\/first-trimester-babies-complex\/\">READ: <em>First trimester babies aren&#8217;t blobs of tissue &#8212; they&#8217;re amazingly complex<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The abortionist then disposed of Valenti\u2019s aborted baby:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>The doctor went to the sink with what she had pulled out in the syringe and looked for proof that it was all there. Andrew [her partner] tells me later that when they were done looking, they washed what was left down the drain.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Valenti closes the account of her abortion by saying, \u201cBefore I leave, the nurse asks if I want a candy. I picked cherry.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Despite the tea and candy, Valenti\u2019s abortions were traumatic and painful, not empowering. She describes abortion workers who were, at best, indifferent to her pain; they mocked her low pain tolerance. Their attitudes were not very pro-woman. Valenti, for all her pro-abortion activism, describes her abortions as <em>ordeals<\/em>, not as positive experiences. And Valenti seemingly remembers every detail &#8212; something not at all uncommon for women who have abortions, no matter how &#8220;pro-choice&#8221; they consider themselves to be.<\/p>\n<p>Her accounts show that abortion is messy and painful. And difficult to forget &#8212; especially for something abortion advocates present as no more significant than having a tooth extracted. The offerings of tea and candy, and the \u201cmidwife-like feel\u201d didn&#8217;t hide these realities.<\/p>\n<p>This &#8220;right&#8221; that pro-choicers fight for is the &#8220;right&#8221; to a painful, exploitative procedure. Abortion does not empower women.<\/p>\n<p><em>Source: Jessica Valenti <\/em>Sex Object<em> (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 2016) 184 \u2013 186<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pro-abortion activist Jessica Valenti wrote about her two abortions in her book,\u00a0Sex Object. Valenti describes finding a private abortion facility to do her first abortion. She paid over $1000 to avoid sitting in a waiting room with other women. Valenti describes how she found the abortion facility: A Google search on \u201cearly abortions\u201d that same [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":153,"featured_media":187834,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Prominent feminist describes her abortion: It &#039;felt like I was being skewered&#039;<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"&quot;My body... clenched and held on even as I assured the doctor that this (abortion) was what I wanted. 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